Future Shock !!!!!!!!

"Too much change in too short a period of time"
....that's how the legendary socialist and futurist Alvin Toffler had predicted in the 70s. And how true it is. The world is shrinking, time is flying faster than ever before (or its just me), innovations are happening at the speed of light and to add to our troubles; information has become way too accessible and technology has taken over our lives. All this availability of required and not-so-required things is making my span of attention and interest shorter and shorter by the day. I want more, I want something new to entertain myself.

• Online chatting (specially with strangers) - Bored!
• SMSing (looked like a necessity in college days) - Bored!
• Mobile phones (never thought that I will survive without it) - Bored!
• Social networking (first orkut was the king and then the throne was captured by facebook) - Bored!
• Online games (there was a time - not too long back- when I could spend entire day and night just playing games on the net) - Bored!

Now mind craves for something new...to learn and exploit it...and then forget about it. But amidst all this, all this obsession about NEW and exciting, the few things which never can be replaced are the things which are there since centuries, may be since the beginning of the mankind. These are the activities, things, experiences which still excite me or are still there with me. Things like:

• Going out and playing some real sports - Hit!
• Reading physical books (specially outside) - Hit!
• Doing calculations on paper (yeah I don't prefer excel sheet for simpler stuff) - Hit!
• Going out and meeting people (rather than spending life on second life) - Hit!
• Listening the old songs  - Hit!
• Writing on paper instead of on computer - Hit!

Having said all this, I still crave for something new and better. I guess when Mr. Toffler did his predictions (which are turning out to be damn right), he would not have imagined how it is going to confuse us and complicate things for us. We are stuck between things we enjoy and things we should enjoy and the difference is minimizing with time.The major issue is a confused and contradicting mind. The definition of pleasure is changing, its becoming more of what should be enjoyable according to certain set of definitions against what actually is. And I don't want that.

Wait a minute :)

You, me or no one is born just to realise that the life we've got is troublesome and it sucks :) 

Everyone's life is worrisome, no one has got a perfect life as we call it. Life is, on first place, what we make it. If you find your life to be one big mess and do nothin' to sort it out, u'll end up being a big time loser. Noone is a loser, unless he/she wants to be. Everyone's equally good as the other. If u choose a way to get out of that mess, there would be no place for cribbing and whining.  

Venus, Mars or Jupiter has got nothing to do with your life - that's something you gotta realise first. Even if there's ssomeone called GOD, this aint no test by him. 
Actually you get what you deserve. But iif u think this aint what u deserve, then work hard to turn it into your favour. 

If u feel like endin' up your life for something you would find very silly n stupid later in your life, remember, no one's gonna lose anything other than u! someone wud cry or wud miss you, but ultimately everyone wud forget and wud move on with their lives.. and u.... wud have lost your life forever :)

 So in short, if you are in big trouble, let me tell you, this is not the end of your life. You have got miles to go. Enjoy the moment n stop worryin' about the past or the future. One is over and the other, Well, you have no clue whether u'd find it or not. :) Chill!

 Dedicated to all those who think their life sucks.. Mine sucks too, but i've found my way that, though it is loaded with truck load of crap, it isnt that stinky as it is supposed to be..... :) 

Nostalgia - An Ode To College Lifz & Friends........

Raah dekhi thi is din ki kabse
aage ke sapne saja rakhe the naajane kab se

bade utavle the yahaan se jaane ko
zindagi ka agla padaav paane ko

par naa jane kyon ..dil mein aaj kuch aur aata hai
waqt ko rokne ka jee chahta hai

jin baton ko lekar rote the
aaj un par hansi aati hai
na jaane kyon aaj un palon ki yaad bahut aati hai

kaha kartha ..badi mushkil se chaar saal seh gaya
par aaj kyon lagta hai ki kuch peeche reh gaya

kahi ankahi hazaaron batein reh gayi
na bhoolne wali kuch yaadein reh gayi

jahaan 2000 ka hisaab nahin wahaan 2 rupay ke liye kaun ladega

kaun raat bhar saath jag kar padega...

KAUN MERA lunch mujse pooche bina khayega
kaun mere naye naye naam banayega

mein ab bina matlab kis se ladoonga
bina topic ke kisse faalto baat karoonga

kaun fail hone par dilasa dilayega
kaun galti se number aane par gaaliyaan sunayega

aise dost kahaan milenge

jo khai mein bhi dhakka de aayein

par fir tumhein bachane khud bhi kood jayein

meri baaton se pareshaan kaun hoga

kabhi muje kisi ladki se baat karte dekh hairaan kaun hoga

kaun kahega chadhe tere joke pe hansi nahin aai

kis ke saath boring lectures jheloonga

professors ke PJ par RAKSHAS ki tarah kaun hansega

mere certificates ko raddi kehne ki himmat kaun karega

bina dare sachi raay dene ki himmat kaun karega

stage par ab kis ke saath jaoonga

juniors ko faltoo ke lectures kaise sunaonga

achanak bin matlab ke kisi ko bhi dekh kar paglon ki tarah hansna

na jaane ye fir kab hoga
keh do doston ye dobaara sab hoga

doston ke liye professor se kab lad payenge
kya hum ye fir kar payenge

raat ko 2 baje paranthe khane kaun jayega
3 gilaas lassi peene ki shart kaun lagayega

kaun muje mere kabiliyat par bharosa dilayega
aur jyada hawa mein udne par zameen pe layega

meri khushi mein sach mein khush kaun hoga
mere gam mein muj se jyada dukhi kaun hoga

meri ye kavita kaun padega
kaun ise sach mein samjega

bahut kuch likhna abhi baaki hai
kuch saath shayad baaki hai

bas ek baat se dar lagta hai doston
hum anjnabi na ban jayein doston

zindagi ke rangon mein dosti ka rang feeka na pad jaye
kahin aisa na ho doosre rishton ki bheed mein dosti dum tod jayye

zindagi mein milne ki fariyaad karte rehna
agar na mil sakein to kam se kam yaad karte rehna

chahe jitna hanslo aaj mujh par
mein bura nahi manooga
is hansi ko apne dil mein basa loonga
aur jab yaad aayegi tumhari
yahi hansi lekar thoda muskura loonga....

 I read this somewhere and thought i would share it with my FELLAS....

Relationships in today's times!!!!!

So many couples walking hand in hand by the road side, muttering sweet nothings to each other, silently smiling with their eyes doing the talking.. Isn't that a common sight these days? And it surely is lovely. We see cafes, ice cream parlours, restaurants and food joints, parks and the parking area too, everywhere we find couples roaming about........

The beginning of a relation brings so many happy moments, coming to know each other, the soft whispers and the lovely messages, when a smile on her face is enough to help you survive your life, when a small cut in his palm freaks you out, the falling of her hair strands on her face while the winds blow on and you wish may the winds never stop, when her good night call is what makes you go to sleep at night and the morning wish is that helps you wake up, the 'you make me feel alive' feeling...I know while reading this you might be remembering your love or the good old days. And that is because these are really the most precious moments of anybody's life.

But then everything doesn't remain the same. As time passes by, this becomes a routine which later on changes into a pain in the neck. Why? Why does love which is ought to be regarded as 'timeless' turn into 'time pass' ?

Why do people break up? What goes wrong in the heavenly habitat of love? Why does happiness turn into sadness and love turns into hate? These are a few difficult questions in life but they need to be figured out, don't you think so? It's time to save the essence of love and relationships....

One never gets a second chance to make the first impression...

One never gets a second chance to make the first impression....

Till a few years ago I used to believe that my first impressions are rarely good. I've stopped bothering about my first impression and the burden now entirely lies on the other person to think of my first impression as a pleasant one or a weird one.
 

To get over a couple of days writer's blog, today I decided to write about my friends, starting from the moment and the reason we met. That made me realize the importance of that first moment when you meet someone, especially when he/she becomes an integral part of your life, and in some ways changes/defines your life.
 

Perhaps its in human nature, a part of nature's law itself, that one remembers the start, some peak points and the end (if reached). And in all that, for me, the start or the first time is the most important.
A simple activity will show you the importance of the first time you meet someone. This is an experiment that may make you feel sad. If you've lost someone in your family/friends group or if you haven't met any of your family member/friend for a very long time and are not likely to meet him/her in near future, did you not, for once, think of the first time you had met that person. The feeling of nostalgia takes over and you recall the first time you met that person and the reason your lives met, the first laugh you shared, the first awkward moment you had, the first thing you did together or some other incident that cemented your relation at the level to where it was when you last met that person. This works for close acquaintances, and pets as well.

Its like walking on a road, alone or with that person, then halting and looking back at the first point on the road when you met that person.

Kabir Das ji once said, "Meet everyone with a smile on your face, you never know which one turns out to be God."
He was right. Just that the way I see it, God in this case would be the person who becomes an integral part of your life and changes it for good. Hence, "Meet everyone with a smile on your face, you never know which one turns out to become an integral part (or love) of your life."

Mein to kisi ki ho ke ye bhi naa jaani... rut hai ye do pal ki yaa rahegi sadaa... Iktara song lyrics from Wake Up Sid...

This song describes any guy's or girl’s state of mind who has just fallen in love.We never know what would happen next, we never know whether things will last or not and most often, the guy or girl isn’t even aware of our feelings.

Yet we dream. We laugh. We cherish each and every moment spent with them. We wait for their texts, have butterflies in stomach when we meet them. sometimes we conceal it behind our shy smile, sometimes they feel the same, sometimes we tell them how we feel.
 

But the feeling of elation when we’re in love, the hopes, the dreams; it just feels wonderful. Drowning in those thoughts, endlessly waiting to see them and thinking of telling them how we feel but not being able to do so. The aura of newly brewed love is wonderful. Feel it, live it and dwell in it because you get to live once. Smile. Hope. Love.

Life.... a hot coffee!!!!!

Many of us think about life as a tedious and complicated circle of routine that follows daily. But as exceptions are always there, so there exist people with better jobs and so called “adventurous” life. But at some point, even they find everything monotonous! Life is just like seasons, where everything paces up in summers and slows down in winters…there always exists an autumn, a dark phase where all the suicidal tendencies gear up in your mind, but “If Winter comes, can SPRING be far behind??”

Just like a cup of coffee, this life will also end someday! So, be a tasty one (yeah! In every sense and I mean it!!! ). Some people are fond of ‘cappuccinos’, while some love ‘mochas’ and some are simply crazy for ‘espresso’ and some lust for ‘black coffee’. Everyone has his own taste, own desires, own accomplishments but one common thing, everyone wants to enjoy and seeks a thrill, an adventure in their life. Something that is different and unexpected MUST happen to them. Something to gossip to a big bunch of friends for whole weekend; or even more adventurous!

But sorry, this is not a ‘twilight saga’ going on, this is LIFE (my gosh, that sounded so heavy…). Anyways, I feel that life should be as colorful as possible. There should be a perfect blend of every emotion in your life. If a person has never cried, he can never experience what a hearty laugh is!

Struggle is an integrated part of life…at every step one has to struggle to bear the fruits of success. A mother struggles to get her baby out of her womb, and then the baby struggles to walk, speak, and learn. Students struggle to be outstanding in today’s booming competition. A degree holder struggles for a good job and a dying person in his death bed struggles for the last breaths of his life. Struggle cannot be eliminated…right now even I’m struggling with words to get my thoughts out of my mind!
Focus and concentrate on YOUR WORK ONLY! That will increase your efficiency and reduce the time you daily pour in for your work and you will be left with plenty of time to spend on other things too.
Each day should be viewed as a gift for it will never return again. People make news about 11.11.11 or 12.12.12 for such dates will come after a century now. But actually, each date is unique and we will never see the same day again in life, so why waste it? Make it memorable; don’t just let it pass by. View each day as a surprise, a wrapped gift, a packed present…believe me, every night you’ll end up thinking about the surprises you actually received!

Make the most out of opportunities served to you, grab the chances, take risks for you are different from all the rest and you are the only ‘one single piece’ in this entire world. Don’t bound yourself, free yourself from every chain and let yourself fly, for once, do whatever your heart wishes to…for once just let go of all thoughts from your mind. Let go of all fears and thoughts about: “what will be the circumstances of this act in future?” Try everything new, wild, crazy, what-so-ever your heart wants you to do.

You like a girl? GO TELL HER, maybe she also likes you? Maybe she’s just waiting for you to approach, or maybe she’s just too shy to admit it. At least let her know what you feel about her. Who knows if she’s the one who is destined to be your future wife..

At least give yourself a chance and prove yourself. Don’t be a ‘chocolate syrup’ that settles down at the bottom of coffee, be the ‘whipped cream’ and stay at the top. As you enjoy coffee while it is hot, so enjoy your life while you are young and energetic! Remember, the time will never return again…a lukewarm coffee is either left or warmed up again. But life cannot be warmed up once it is COLD! So, drink it before it becomes lukewarm, live it before you REGRET later! One life….

Yes, A Guy and a Girl can be just friends. Forever!!!

She acknowledges my qualities, she has seen me at my worst. She completes me. It is almost impossible for me to imagine life without her. She tolerates all my moods, consoles me when I need sympathy. We can gossip for hours tirelessly. I love our midnight conversations. We discuss crushes, hopes, friends, fights, relationships. She knows when to offer advice and when to let me be on my own. Some way or the other, she is always right. I adore her. We rarely have fights or arguments. Neither is she perfect nor I, but together, we are beyond compare.
And people think we're together. They think we are in love. I wish these people are lucky enough to experience such a bond at least once in their lifetime. If this happens, they would know how this friendship is much more special than any love affair. I am in Love but not with her. I am in Love with our friendship, in love with that special feeling of togetherness, in love with this magnetic bond.
Yes, A Guy and a Girl can be just friends. Forever!
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Friendship isn't a scheme with 'Conditions Apply' starred over it. It never comes with a set of rules and regulations. There are no restrictions on the basis of gender, status or appearance. Like love, Friendship just happens. You can almost instantly connect with a new found friend if you are compatible. And if not, you will find yourself at the starting point, even after years. A Guy and Girl's friendship is unique, in its own way. There are no tantrums, no breakups and no patch-ups. There is no jealousy or insecurity involved. She makes you feel great about yourself all the time.
You love her, in a way that no words can describe. She is the first person you'd want your girlfriend to meet. One moment you're sad, and the next instant you are laughing your ass off, thanks to her. Relationships may come and go, but you know she'll be there for you, always, an immovable pillar of strength. Someone in whom your faith is so firm that it defeats the strongest of adversities.
' Sometimes all a guys needs, is a girl best friend '

Do you believe in Fairy tales ??????

Well, I'm probably one of the most inexperienced people to say anything. I don't know how it feels to fall in love, to fall out of love. I've no clue.
But still, I do believe in love. I believe there's someone for everyone. Everyone knows how to love, it just takes the right person and the right time, to let the love overpower all the negatives. Someday, someone will come and she'll make you realize how heavenly the feeling is, how heavenly love is.
Love for me, isn't just about, gifts, dates and Fb statuses. There's much more to it. It's about million little moments, you share with each other, those big tight hugs, silly stupid fights, the time you spend thinking about the other person, being that immovable pillar of strength, supporting her in every possible way, being with her, when everyone else walks out and a lot more. It's not about how often you say, 'I love you', its about how often you mean it. It's not about the price of the gifts, its about the feelings, behind the gift. A hand made card is much more valuable than anything else. The love, the care and the urge to bring that smile on your beloved's face is what matters.

Fairytales. I don't say, they don't exist. Neither do I say, they do. Your love story is your own. Fairytale presents before you, only the positive side, the better side of love, leaving aside the complications of love, the anxiety, fights, anger. Maybe, this is why people don't believe in fairytales.
But, maybe this is what makes a real love story even more beautiful than a fairytale. True love overpowers everything. When you have someone by your side, you have the power to face everything. You face every challenge that comes your way, together. All this maybe frustrating for a while, but the frustration is nothing in comparison to the feeling you'll get after you overcome the challenge, to the strength it'll add to your relationship.
'If you don't have a happy ending, this probably isn't the ending.

Some are convicted for breaking the heart…some are the victims of broken heart – Irony of unrequited love.”

We fall in love, blindly, unconditionally, selflessly…Ever thought why? Ever wondered why this heart, which belongs to us, cheats us without a warning? It could just say, “Hey, I am going to fall in love. Watch it!!!”

And what comes after is pleasant yet intimidating thoughts of whether our love would be accepted or not. Lets not talk about acceptance because they are the lucky ones…what about rejection?

A question that remains unanswered…a pain that remains in the heart and keeps piercing it so intensely that it becomes hard to breath.

I believe almost everyone has felt this pain…no one remains untouched by this pain.

The answer remains within our heart, the culprit who makes us fall in love. If it becomes the victim of love, it will also act as a great healer. But then who has patience? Do you have patience?

Time passes and the pain fades away just like scars…but those memories are never erased. They can either be cherished or neglected.

Who is to be blamed? You? Your heart? You break someone’s heart or see your own heart break into pieces. You are either convicted for breaking a heart or become a victim of heart break. There is no escape from it. Is there?

When was the last time you hugged your parents.....

They enjoy every living moment of our lives like nothing else.They love us like no one else.

Yet,at times we fail to realise the way they express their love for us.
Not all parents can afford the same lifestyle or education,but they put all that they have,to do the best they can..only for us.Not all parents are expressive enough to hug or appreciate their child all the time,but they surely do things in their own little way to love us.
Some mothers spend every waking moment with their child while some are forever busy with household or office  work and spend whatever time they get ,with their children after the chores. They cook your favourite food and eat it even if they dont like.They watch your favourite cartoon because you like watching it.
And you ignore "silly sacrifices" of your mom ,when she chose to buy you a new shoe and dress you in new clothes from head to toe and preferred to wear an old saree herself.When they do anything for us ,we think its their duty! I am sorry to say everyone comes and goes alone from this world.There is no duty unless ther is love and compassion.They sacrifice for us because they chose to do so.Come to think of it..they could have chosen otherwise.Sometimes,we hardly take a few minutes to throw them out of our lives.(I wonder what it would be like to be thrown in a dustbin the day we were born...After all that also happens in the same world we live in!)
Yet, none of us would exchange our parents with anyone.That is the reason life was designed in a way that we can choose our friend/life partner but God chooses our parents.We need to understand why it is so designed.Your parents are the best that you deserve in life.And hence,God choses them for you.Do not ever fail to do your best for them.If we cant reverse a mistake,at least we can apologise.For a parent,even if a child understands the mistake ,its enough.

 And you get all of this the day you know you are going to become a parent. Life comes full circle, as your child grows. The challenges of parenting that it throws remind you of how you hated your mom or dad for a particular thing or how much you loved them for the way they behaved in a certain situation.
 Yet ,at times,some of us take them for granted.Or we feel they haven't done enough for us,giving us a right to not respect them enough. None of us have the right to do so. You acknowledge or you dont,
your Parents would never curse you.But why some of us fail to take care of them?For what on earth can we let our parents feel they aren't loved?Why on earth there is surge in the aged people in old age homes?For a job?For the comfort of a life partner?For different lifestyles?I strongly believe everything can be sorted.
 When was the last time you hugged them or asked them if they were alright?Can't remember?
Then do it within a minute of reading this.Break the Ice.Ease out.Thats your mom ,your Dad.They cant ever stop loving you.And dont cheat yourself by loving them lesser than anyone else.Believe me,If you think only only you are the Ideal daughter or son and they aren't the best Parents,Life will make sure you have an ideal son or daughter like yourself.
 Mummy and Papa,wherever you are,I am becuase you Are.

Corporate Atyaachar...

We work like dogs and still get no returns unless there are a few who lose everything for success. Is success more important than happiness? Cut the crap! Until the time, we realize what success is and what is happiness, it’s too late. Get up in the morning and catch the bus to reach the office and if you miss that bus then you lose your one-day salary. Now was I driving the bus? And if these people are so obsessed with the timings then why don’t they provide pick and drop transport services all through the day to their employees?. When you come home in the evening with your brains fucked up because of the work pressure and are just on the verge of taking a breather, you get a call from your manager asking you why you didn't send that report. What was I doing on that bloody 15-inch laptop screen? Do you even allow us to access Facebook so that I can chat with some hot chicks? No. But who will understand our problem? Moreover, the bumper prize comes ahead of this. If you are excellent in all the aspects of your work, then you are given a branded laptop with latest configuration. You fly on cloud nine for all the appreciation you have got and try to watch some movie in the night on the same bloody laptop, your mobile beeps and you are ordered to come online to resolve an issue, which has been suddenly raised by the authorities. Then, you feel like throwing the laptop from the last floor of your building and even if you do that, you won’t be satisfied. Because your BlackBerry service is still active. Therefore, in one line why don’t these people just say, ‘“You are our sex toy. We will use you as our vibrator until we derive pleasures in earning profits from you. Once we learn that you are of no use and you are not giving us the pleasure we need, we will kick you or throw you in a dustbin. Moreover, all our time and energy of last few years is wasted. But ya, your virginity is lost. You are no longer a first timer. Why? Because they hand over an experience certificate saying, you are officially fucked and now you are experienced on paper. You take that and move to someone else and history once again repeats itself…